Dear Annie: I broke up with my ex-boyfriend about two years ago after being together for a little over 20 years. We’re both seniors now. Despite the breakup, I’ve continued to reach out to him on and off when I need certain things, and he always comes back. The pattern is predictable: I call him, we reconnect, I eventually get frustrated or upset, and then we stop talking again.
The truth is, I don’t love him anymore, but he insists he still loves me. I think I keep going back to him because he feels familiar and safe, and I know for a fact he hasn’t been with anyone else.
Here’s my dilemma: I would love to find real love again, but at my age, the idea of starting over feels overwhelming. How can I break this cycle with my ex and open myself up to finding someone new? Is it even possible to find meaningful companionship at this stage in life? — At This Stage in Life
Dear Stage in Life: Yes, it is absolutely possible to find love as a senior! Age is just a number, and you’re only as old as you feel. Start by focusing on what makes you feel youthful, happy and confident. If finding a new relationship sounds like fun, then embrace it wholeheartedly.
While the comfort and familiarity of your on-and-off-again boyfriend might be tempting, remind yourself that anything truly worthwhile takes time and effort. It’s natural to feel hesitant about starting something new, but once you take the leap and open yourself up to new experiences, you might discover it’s not only rewarding but also fun.
Begin by exploring ways to meet new people — join local groups, try senior-focused dating apps, or take up activities and hobbies you’re passionate about. These are great ways to connect with others who share your interests and outlook on life.
Love has no expiration date. By stepping out of your comfort zone, you might find that the best chapters of your life are still ahead. Take that first step — you deserve it!
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