What should you do if you’re dating a guy and he takes his time to call you back? It’s endlessly frustrating to be with a man who is lazy when it comes to returning promised calls. You wait all day to hear from him and when you do he acts as though he did nothing wrong. Is the right response to get upset with him or are you better off to pout until he realizes the error of his ways? Neither of those is actually the best approach for you to take. If you want him to call back sooner rather than later, you simply need to do just one thing. You need to pull back.
One major difference between men and women is that we respond to words and men don’t. Of course, men listen and are able to communicate effectively, but there’s a huge difference in how men react to women. If you want your guy to do something or if there’s a problem in the relationship, naturally you’re going to talk to him about it, right? It seems like the most logical thing to do. Depending on what the issue is, it’s not always the best thing though.
A perfect example is when he takes his time to call you back. You react by telling him that it upsets and hurts you when he does it. You believe he’ll hear the distress it is causing you and you assume he’ll remedy it by calling more, right? That’s not likely to happen at all. In fact, what you think he’ll hear and what he actually does hear are two very different things. He hears a woman who is desperate and in need of attention. He doesn’t hear a self assured, confident woman. His likely reaction is to call even less and eventually end the relationship. He’s not going to find it appealing at all if you whine about something he views as insignificant.
When you pull back, he’ll actually respond more to that than if you tell him what you want. When a woman creates some distance in her relationship it’s obvious that she’s unhappy with something. It also suggests that she’s losing interest, fast. If your guy cares for you, and senses that you may not be as into him as you once were, he’ll get busy, quickly, changing things. He’ll improve his behavior and suddenly he’ll be very attentive and loving. That will include him calling you back when he says he will and even calling more often.