How doable is dating women 10-20 years older than me – Dating, Sexuality, Relationships, Family
5 hours ago, MarkKol said:
I see a lot of women older than me that I’m simply attracted to, and this happens a lot, It’s a preference both in personality and physical attractiveness, does anyone have any experiences or tips regarding this? I’m 20, and these women seem to be between the ages 30-40 usually.
When I was 20, I experienced a huge shift where I suddenly got unattracted to men in their 20s and was only attracted to guys in their 30s up to early 40s.
I can look back now, that this was a desire for what I perceived as a symbol of stability and maturity. And I was dealing with a lot of chaos and disconnection at the time. I really didn’t have a support system.
I would say beware someone in that 30-40 age range that would date a 20 year old as they are often lacking in maturity. And I would look to see if there are any reasons why these attractions might be arising as it may indicate things like feeling unsupported and/or a lack of a support system… and a desire to find a maternal figure to provide what is lacking.
I understand however, that that heart wants what it wants. When I was 20, I was so deeply entrenched in these feelings about older men that I was literally incapable of being attracted to anyone under the age of 28.
I would just say that it would be wise to seek to understand this on an emotional/psychological level and to be careful who you allow into your life as you would likely find immature women of that age who are looking for a totally different dynamic than what you’re likely looking for.
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