Guys should pursue women. That is the natural order but what if the guy is so shy? Some women find themselves liking a shy guy and end up so frustrated because they keep waiting for him to do the first move. Dealing with a shy guy could be a challenge and you need to have the guts to make the first move, at least until he gets comfortable around you because sometimes all a guy needs is a girl who can help him overcome his shyness. Are you dealing with a shy guy? Here are some helpful tips.
Do not take his shyness personally. A guy’s shyness has nothing to do with you. A shy guy is naturally uncomfortable around women so do not think that he’s uncomfortable only with you and do not think that something is wrong with you. Shyness is just part of his nature but it has nothing to do with his feelings towards you. Dealing with a shy guy can be very difficult if you will start taking it personally and will start thinking something is wrong with you.
Learn how to engage him in a conversation. You could wait forever for a shy guy to start the conversation so you have to learn how to make him engage in a conversation. It requires guts to initiate a conversation with guy who is extremely shy but if you really like him, it is best to try than not to try at all. Before taking a step forward and initiate a conversation, find a common interest between the two of you so that you know what to talk about. Maybe you both love music or you both love a certain hobby. Once there is a common interest, it is easier to engage him to talk or have a conversation with you. It may take a while for a shy guy to engage in a face-to-face conversation so in this case, social media, chat apps and text messaging can be very helpful to start the conversation and get to know each other well before facing each other. No matter what the medium is, the most important thing in dealing with a shy guy is to help him talk and open up to you.
Be patient. Guys who are shy need time to feel comfortable with the opposite sex and rushing him or forcing him to go out of his shell will not be helpful. Dealing with a shy guy requires patience. Do not expect a fast progress. If he managed to start texting you, do not pressure him to make frequent calls. Take things slowly. Do not rush him but provide him a comfortable environment and make him feel that he is free to express himself when he’s ready. Do not pressure him or force him but let things happen naturally.
Respect his privacy. A shy guy can be very private and it is a big leap for him to step forward and share things with you so if he managed to accomplish that, respect his shared feelings. It is best to keep those things for yourself. He may not appreciate hearing that you shared those things he confided to you with your family and friends. It is important to gain his trust and confidence for him to continue opening himself to you. Dealing with a shy guy requires you to be respectful of his shared feelings and his privacy.
Make him feel good about himself. A shy guy lacks confidence maybe because he has insecurities or does not know his worth. In dealing with a shy guy, it is important to help him boost his confidence. Make him feel that he matters. If you need help on something he is good at, do not hesitate to ask help from him. But it is important that you are sincere and not only pretending that you need help just to make him feel good. Sincerely praise him and remember even the little things he shared with you. Let him know that shyness is something that can be defeated and let him feel that he is not alone because people including you can be shy too once in a while.
Dealing with a shy guy can be a challenge but if you know what to do, you can help this guy go out of his shell and enjoy dating.