Are you fed up with always being the one to go after a guy you like? Do you envy those girls who seem able to get any guy she wants almost without even trying? Wouldn’t you like to turn things around and have him do the chasing for a change? If things have gotten out of hand and you can’t figure out what gives, it may be time to make some changes. If you’d like to have him do the chasing like it’s supposed to be, here’s how you can turn the race around.
Why Not All Men Do The Chasing
Although a guy will chase after a girl if he absolutely has to, he doesn’t mind sitting back and letting her come after him. After all, it’s good for the ego to know that a woman wants him enough to go after him. And it puts him in the driver’s seat even after he lets her catch him.
If it’s happened to you, you have to ask yourself how it happened. Well, for one thing, if you really liked a guy, chances are you let him know. It’s okay to show some interest, but there is a fine line. If you came across too strongly, he would have quickly realized that he didn’t have to do anything because he was already in the driver’s seat.
Don’t Chase — That’s His Job!
Instead, in order to have him do the chasing, you should show you’re interested but then back off. Instead of hanging around and hanging around waiting for him to decide to stay and talk or walk away, you break off the conversation. If he’s interested he has to make the next move and approach you to talk more or to get your phone number.
Once he asks you out, don’t think you’re home free yet. How you react and what you do both during and after the date are just as important. Show your curiosity in what he has to say, but be sure to turn the conversation around to you and your interests too.
You want him to understand that you are an appealing person in your own right and you have lots going on in your life, whether he’s part of it or not. Leave him intrigued by you and curious enough to find out more by asking you out again.
How To Make Sure He Keeps Chasing You
And then there’s the post date time. It’s okay to shoot him a quick text or make a short phone call to thank him for the good time and to tell him you’d like to do it again soon. But after that the ball is in his court, so wait to hear back from him before you contact him again, otherwise you’re letting him know that you are prepared to chase him.
It’s important that you follow these little tips if you want to have him do the chasing otherwise you’re going to be back to square one. If you’d like some more tips on how to turn the chase around, I’ve got them for you.