You’re out on the town with your buddies when you get chatting to a cute brunette with some super sexy curves.
You crack a few jokes and she’s giggling and touching your arm. She then says ‘here – take my number. I have to go now – but call me.’
Then she leaves with her friends and disappears into the night, as you allow yourself to imagine meeting her again, and all the fun and excitement that could entail.
Next day you wake up and you begin to fret – when do I call and what do I say?
You want to speak to her right away because you like her. But conventional dating wisdom tells you that you should wait 3 days before calling a call, otherwise she will think you are needy.
Conventional wisdom has its place, but by the same token, it very often is completely wrong. I routinely call girls the day after meeting them and rarely have problems with them not answering or returning my calls.
Here’s why – I’m not needy. The reason I’m not needy is for one, I don’t need a girl to validate my existence – I know who I am and what I stand for. Secondly, I know I can go out any day and get a new girl if I want. So although I would feel a sense of disappointment if she didn’t answer, it wouldn’t destroy me because I genuinely know that there really are plenty more fish in the see.
So these dating games, such as waiting 3 days to respond, are essentially tricks that needy men have come up with in order to fool women into thinking they are not needy.
You can fool a girl for a certain amount of time with these tricks, but she will figure you out eventually.
Isn’t it better to go to the source of the problem and just stop being needy in the first place?
You see, when I call a girl up next day, it’s because I like her so far, and I want to meet her again and find out more about her. But most guys call a girl up because they think ‘oh my god, a girl is interested in me! I must make her like me! I must call her up before she loses interest in me!’
A girl can smell this stuff a mile off – and that’s what puts her off, not the fact you called her up only 12 hours after getting her number.
In fact if you’re not needy, and you can explain why you like her at that point as opposed to any other woman you could have met, she will usually feel pretty attractive and special that you felt that way about her.
Compare that to feeling like she was the only woman who happened to say ‘yes’ to you that night, and that’s why you called her.