Ahh dating! The word dating conjures up images of the first kiss, the innocence of falling in love, and the nerve wracking moments of the first introduction. But technology is changing all that. Whether it is a social networking site or an online dating site that has played a part in boy meets girl or girl meets boy the age old game of dating has changed.
The internet has removed boundaries for most people. The limits of one’s reach now extend far past one’s neighborhood, church, social club, or work environment. Penpals, once dependent on the paper and pen, envelopes and stamps now can shorten the circuit of mail and response to instantaneous remarks via chat or video exchanges online. There are no boundaries. Time zones withstanding, relationships can be crafted around the corner, across the country or around the globe in a matter of cyber seconds..
With this change in the spectrum of opportunity the definition of dating has also evolved to include a broad range of acceptable meanings. Such meanings, however, are not always understood by all parties. Consider the following statements:.
“I am dating around.”
“We have been dating for about a month.”
“I went on a date last night.”
“We are just dating.”
“Lately, I’ve been dating online.”
In some cases the word may be used intentionally as a euphemism. Does dating mean kissing, sleeping together, or just spending time together. The reader may think that the answer is self evident. Certainly if a friend shares a private comment about a recent date there is the opportunity to ask for the intended meaning. But when it comes to internet dating or online dating the boundaries of the definition may be as broad as the Internet itself. It is the opinion of the writer that understanding the range in meaning in this simple word is initially the key to success in the very act of having a date..
The number of new encounters per year from online services is in the millions, with each new acquaintance providing the opportunity to go on a date. Understanding one’s expectations and the expectation of a potential partner is essential to minimizing disappointment and maximizing the chance of finding love for life..
The reader should understand that not all potential dates have the same expectations. Some online men and women are merely looking for a companion for a social outing. Others are looking for a one night stand or a convenient sex partner. There are persons with unpublished agendas to simply have sex. Some persons, both men and women, emotionally defraud their would-be partner with misleading remarks, while others are simply dating to get a free glass of wine or an extravagant meal. Consider that online dating can be an addiction where users have no intention of finding love but only live for the promise of an adrenaline rush from the first moments of meeting a stranger..
Finally, online dating is really not dating at all but rather online meeting. Dating in whatever form may not engage until after the reality of each other’s profile is proven with a face to face meeting or meet. Clearly a meet is not a date. It is however an opportunity to evaluate the selected partner for alignment with their profile, to reconcile their photos with their appearance, and to measure the intensity of the chemistry. After all indicators have been resolved positively the meet can be retitled or rescheduled as a date. Whatever that means!.